School Yard Snob part 2

I have talked about my daughter having some trouble fitting in at school, mainly due to her on-again-off-again friends. Someone suggested to me that I should try and meet the parents of these girls. Well, today I sort of did. My daughter's fourth grade class has been writing poetry for the past month or so and the teacher invited the parents to come to the school today for a poetry reading / tea party. So the ringleader of my daughter's friends is this nine or ten year old girl named P***e. Her mother showed up fashionably late along with one set of P's grandparents. They all carried in a cup of cafe style coffee including one for P. Now, my daughter loves coffee and I will let her have a little now and then, but I would not bring in a regular sized coffee to school for her. Of course this had ALL the other children oohing and saying the teacher "hey P got coffee". To which the teacher replied "Well if her mom says it's OK, it's OK". This fed into my preconceived ideas of the type of home this girl has - one of being spoiled. And her mother couldn't be bothered with cordial greetings like "Hello", much less a conversation with anyone outside her little circle. When my husband asked me "How did it go?" I told him "OK". But that's not true, it was really good. Our daughter did great reading her poem as did most of the other children. Nearly all of the poems brought genuine laughter from the parental audience. The tea was good, the cookies were good, it was nice spending time with my daughter. But this one, stupid little thing was sticking out in my mind.

Children learn by example and I can see where this girl has gotten her example. Somehow the other girls are enthralled by her and if she likes someone or something, they do too. If she doe not like someone or something, they will agree or go along with her.

I guess the reason this bothers me so much is not just because of the hurt it causes my daughter, but what kind of woman is this girl going to become?